Every kid lies and we all know that. And if there had been an Oscar for lying, that could have very easily gone to both of my sons. But because they both are grounded all the time, they wouldn’t have been able to receive it themselves. It’s like the 12th time, within 3 days—they are caught lying to my face.
“Oh. So you are really saying that you didn’t eat that chocolate bar and hid the wrapper under your quilt? Alright, you must be telling the truth, but please go and wash that brown stuff off your face.”
“Yes sweetie, I was the one who squeezed the entire toothpaste into the sink and then made a smiley off that onto the mirror. I am sorry, I accused you. I will clean it up”
These innocent white lies are what I am alright with. But what scare me are teenage lies, because according to Research conducted by Acta Pscyhologica, kids ages between 6 and 8 and adults 60 and above are the ones who are most honest with us, while adults and teens between ages 18 and 29 years lie the most. For the rest, they just lie to us, all the time, especially our teens.
Why Teenage Lies Should Scare You Off?
Unlike kids who aren’t adept at making lies, teens learn that skill quite well. And no matter how hard you try to catch them with their lies, they will always be watchful of their words and actions. Also, teens lie to us about everything that would actually scare us off, and there is a reason for that.
Why Teens Lie?
According to Fran Walfish, an expert psychotherapist, in an interview with yahoo Parenting, explained that kids simply want to get rid of the accountability that comes in, as a result of telling the truth, following an error. He also elucidated that this is more common in teens.
Teens lie because of their hormones, according to Walfish. Their bodies tell them that parents are their worst enemies and they will never understand what they are going through. So the best way they can deal with all of this is by lying.
Lying, however, is a form of maturing, but for parents, it’s never easy to confront repeated lies.
Homer Simpson once made a very strong case against liars “Marge, it takes two to lie; one to lie and one to listen”.
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